Defining yourself, creating your style.

For the last couple weeks I've been on a mission.  This is what I do.  I go on missions.  I get obssessed with my mission.  I drive around making everyone around me bonkers talking about my mission.  Now I'm taking my mission to my blog, so all you loverly folks can join me on my mission and also get annoyed.

 Wanna know what it is?  My mission is to create my style.  Your mission, should you choose to take it, it to create YOUR style. (cue music)

Guess what?  I'm already doing lots of things right.  And I'm much better at knowing what isn't working and more importantly WHY.  But I'm not settled yet.  And that's ok.....here's where it gets good.  The sun begins to come out.

I did a profiling course online.   You know about profiling right?  You're something on the Meyer-Briggs, you're a season of the year, you have a love language, you're an animal....

I usually have a hard time knowing what I am, and have shied away from those things. But this one piqued my curiousity, and it's very new and not well known yet.  And I did it to help me understand my decorating style (more so than my personality).  Come to find out my energy profile is bright and animated, airy, random, CRISP, fresh, and most of all FUN!

That would explain why I like so many styles, change things up a lot, use humor, and never get 'settled'.  And that's why it's ok.  I'm all about IDEAS and bouncing from thing to thing....not so great with follow-thru, though, so I let my secondary energy type help balance that.

This particular process also helps identify your 'look' regarding clothes, accessories, hair and makeup that best brings out your natural energy type.  And get this....many of us (especially women) have moved away from our dominant type because as kids in our natural movement, we were told to, for example,  'settle down', or 'lighten up', or 'be stronger', or 'don't be so bossy'.....and so we did.  We generally began moving into our second dominant type (in a dysfunctional way), trying to 'be' that person we were supposed to 'be' so people would like us. 

But it hasn't worked.  In the fashion world AND the decorating world, the powers that be cater to only one of the 4 energy types for the most part....so we all try to get on the bandwagon and copy the styles and trends.  Raise your hand if you're kinda over that?  (If you happen to be that energy type, then you prolly don't concern yourself much about fashion and decorating, interestingly enough, because it comes naturally to you.  It's a no-brainer, and there's more important fish to fry.)

So what about the other 3?  We're left feeling like WE are the problem.  Can't wear skinny jeans?  It must be MY problem.  Don't stainless steel appliances?  I must be weird.  Too loud or too shy in a crowd?  I must be broken.  Like natural wood trim?  I'm out of style.  See what I mean? 

Don't know about you, but I'm all about finding what works for ME, and could care less if it is 'in style' or 'trendy' or even has a name.  And girls, I've found tons of freedom, had lots of ah-ha moments...and have let myself off the hook.  My house doesn't have to be stylized or dreamy or rugged.....it can be random and fun!  Because that's ME.  My rooms don't need to 'flow' perfectly because I like random (and I want my kids to have room that reflect their unique energy type).

Can I just say what a difference this has made?  Now I can go back thru my ruminating exercises with another piece to the puzzle.  I can better articulate what speaks to me and why.  I can appreciate other styles for what they offer, and can certainly add elements to my rooms (for instance, my bedroom needs to be light and airy and fun, but also have lots of soft, dreamy details, and no hard lines).  And all the members of my clan need to have places in the house that speak to their energy types...what they like.  It's how we balance one another, and how we'll find balance in our decorating pursuits.

So are you curious?

Then you need to pop over the Energy Profiling and start finding out your energy type, and then how it relates to everything and everyone in your world.  If you want to continue into the fashion part of it, you head to Dressing Your Truth.

Her newest book Dressing Your Truth-Discover Your Personal Beauty Profile will be released on Thursday, and you can read all about it HERE.

I showed you the banner I made for my newest blog yesterday....the one with the random collage of brightly colored clothing and accessories.

I'm going to use that to process my journey into expressing my nature as a Type 1 via relationships, dressing, and decorating.   Of course some of this is going to bleed over to this blog, but specifics for each type will be on the other blog...specifically Type 1's, specifically.  K.

It truly has been one of the best gifts I've ever given to myself....It's helping me embrace myself as I am, stop competing with others or trying to be someone else, and lets me accept others as THEY are without expecting them to be like me.  Novel thought.

There's some things in my home I will need to re-do (because now I understand why they aren't working), and I've got some brilliant new direction for some other decorating quandries I've been wrestling with so you can expect lots of projects and makeovers and redos here all summer.  My greatest hope is that as I begin to reintroduce myself to, uh, myself....that will encourage you all to meet yourselves again too.  Discovering who you truly are, were meant to be.....is there anything so beautiful?  Being comfy in your skin, then in your clothes, and in your home?  Wow!  It's possible....it is really honestly possible to live your truth an all aspects of your world.


InMyOwnStyle said...

Hi Cindy -
I just love what you have written today. Living In Your Own Style is the only way to live happily. I am old enough to finally have found the confidence I need to be myself and when I did , it literally turned my life around. Finding ones personal style can and is liberating. Best of Luck on your journey.

Bella's Rose Cottage said...

Cindy.. You are your own style and outspoken. That is why I love to visit your blog!
Dance like no one is watching...

www.thewhitefarmhouse2.blogspot.com said...

Great post! Recently I found myself getting caught up in the "perfectly decorated" house. It didn't make me happy though. I missed how I was. I am now onto doing what I like and not everyone is going to like it. I do though and that is ok. No one person is like another. So why should our houses be carbon copies of others. I still love the white decor, but it is not me.

Congrats on meeting yourself! I am sure that you will find she is as great as all of us think!

Cottage Dreamers said...

Great post! I found myself saying "Yeah!" and "Me too!" a lot. Now I need to figure out who in the world I am!
☺ Celeste

Old Time Cindy said...

When we start to blog, it becomes a journey of self discovery. I started out as who I thought I was and have certainly evolved over time. We are all looking to be comfortable with ourselves and know that it is okay to follow our own path. Great post!

Laurie at Turner Farm said...

Great Post! I have been on that journey and am loving it. I will now have to read the book, didn't know there was one. When we decided to build this time, I am designing this home to what I like. Haven't looked at one design book or search for latest trends. Nothing!
It is such a fun journey! Woo Hoo for you!

Jayme Goffin, The Coop Keeper said...

Oh Cindy, I'm so excited for you. I think you are phenomenal the way you are, but what I love so much about you is that you are always seeking your truth! I'm looking forward to embarking on this journey with you. Ps I'm coming over for a visit soon!

~ Regan said...

Yes, I agree with Jayme-

I love your sense of style, and I think no matter what other ppl think (even if they are super duper impressed!) you will always have a thought about "Is it right for you". I'm glad you let the things you love stay that way, and I'm glad to see you thoughtfully creating new ways to decorate your home. Who sets trends, anyway? They have to be created somehow, and we all know the best trends aren't necessarily from a book or catalougue. It's from combining all the things you love!

Charise said...

Cindy, I thouroughly enjoyed your post! You don't know me but my family has done the energy profiling and dressing your truth, and it is amazing ! Thanks for being true to your type 1 energy and sharing your excitement! -Charise

Beth@The Stories of A to Z said...

Glad you found a tool to help you further embrace yourself, your beauty, and your contribution to the blogging world! Great post :).

Tammy@InStitches said...

I so enjoyed this post, Cindy. Thanks for the resource, I'm going to go check it out.

Funky Junk Interiors said...

Sounds VERY interesting Cindy! I had no idea there was such a course to discover that striking out on your own is ok. Think if I took the course I'd turn 'normal'? LOL

Seriously, good for you! I look forward to learning abit more about your other blog!


Maddie said...

Thanks for spilling over on to this blog. Can I have access to your other one though? Family privilege?

Nathalie said...

I'm a Type 1 and have gone through the DYT course - I'd love to have access to your other blog! It sounds fabulous!!

Michele Lewis said...

Nathalie she's in our fb groups :) As a fellow 1 we are so thrilled you know why you are the way you are!!!! You are so cute!!!!


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